What if I woke up every single morning and told myself that to start the day?
How many times would I have to repeat that to myself before it actually came true?
This came up during an interview on a podcast that I host called Summerlin Advice Givers®.
My guests Kristine Modzelewskii and Kim Advent shared the ideas and philosophies they use at Avanti Wellness/CMI, an addiction and depression treatment facility in Argentina.
We discussed some alternative methods to treat depression and addiction that aren’t typically used in the traditional AA or 12-step programs.
While some may find it controversial to challenge these programs and traditional beliefs, I found it to be quite intriguing.
The reason being, is that over the last few years I have read books, watched presentations, attended conferences and consumed plenty of information on self-improvement.
A common theme among these authors, speakers and presenters is positive affirmations and self-talk.
If you are not familiar with affirmations they can best be described as reminding yourself that you are deserving of love, success, wealth, health and pretty much anything else you want out of life.
Think of the old Saturday Night Live character Stuart Smalley on his show “Daily Affirmations”, at the end of each skit he turns to the mirror and says…
“I’m good enough, I’m smart enough and doggonit people like me”.
The goal is to become the person you believe you are capable of becoming by telling yourself everyday what it is that you want to be.
Many successful people that I have followed throughout the years have often attributed their successes to positive affirmations.
If there is any validity to this theory wouldn’t it be true for negative affirmations and self-talk to have a negative impact?
Imagine someone who has been in “recovery” for 10 years…
For a decade they have labeled and re-affirmed themselves as an addict.
How can they not not be an addict at this point? That is who they believe they have become.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not implying that overcoming addiction and depression is as easy as looking in the mirror and telling yourself you are awesome a couple times a week.
But I do believe that it doesn’t help to continue to devalue yourself by assigning yourself a negative label.
Eventually, you will believe it, eventually, you will become it.
I have friends that have gone through traditional methods of treatment and their successes have varied.
I’m not saying AA and other treatments don’t work. I’m simply saying that a change in mindset and how you talk to yourself could prove to be more effective for some.
So love yourself and let others love you.
*If you have completed one of these programs and have found success, I celebrate you!
**If you feel you could benefit from one of these programs, I encourage you to find one that fits you best and don’t be embarrassed to ask your friends for help.